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RIO DE JANEIRO, Nov. 11 (Xinhua) -- Wendell Lira, the clubless striker nominated for this year's FIFA's Puskas award, has found a new home.

Brazilian second-tier outfit Vila Nova announced the signing of Lira on Wednesday, less than a week after he was shortlisted for the goal of the year accolade.

""We have always liked the way he plays but until now we haven't been able to sign him,"" Vila Nova president Guto Veronez said.？

The 26-year-old had been a free agent since September, having been released by non-league club Goianesia and Serie C side Tombense this year.？

Lira, who last week expressed hope that the nomination would revive his career, vowed to repay Vila Nova's faith.

""Football is my life. It's difficult to be contracted for four or five months and then lose your job,"" he said.

""I have been working out, running and training in the hope of finding a new club.""

The goal that brought Lira global fame was a twisting bicycle kick that helped Goianesia defeat Atletico Goianiense 2-1 in a Goias state league match in March.

Goianesia president Gustavo Carvalho said the club would commission a statue or bust of Lira to honor his achievement.

The Brazilian will compete for the Puskas award with nine other nominees, including Barcelona star Lionel Messi, Boca Juniors forward Carlos Tevez and USA women's midfielder Carli Lloyd.

The winner will be announced at the Ballon d'Or gala on January 11.？？

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WASHINGTON, May 18 (Xinhua) -- China-proposed Belt and Road Initiative offers connectivity crucial to world development, Chinese Ambassador to the United States Cui Tiankai said here on Thursday.

"Just as blood vessels bring life to the body, if we want to bring prosperity to every corner of the world, we need connectivity," said Cui at the 2017 Awards Gala Dinner held by Committee of 100, a U.S. non-partisan organization focused on U.S.-China relations.

"The Belt and Road Initiative offers just the right spirit and tools that connect countries and peoples," he added.

Calling the initiative "constructive and forward-looking", Cui said the connectivity it offers will help people worldwide to make joint efforts to address the global deficits in peace, development and governance.

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